Men will renounce violence, group has discovered
A campaign to end violence against women and girls got off to a running start Wednesday evening, as White Ribbon Yukon held its inaugural annual general meeting
By Christopher Reynolds on November 28, 2013
A campaign to end violence against women and girls got off to a running start Wednesday evening, as White Ribbon Yukon held its inaugural annual general meeting
The event, spearheaded by men in the territory, validated more than two years of preliminary work and campaigns to promote respectful relationships and end silence around sexism and physical abuse.
"I think men have an enormous amount of influence over other men, and along with that influence comes a responsibility to teach and educate and perpetuate proper behaviour,” said co-founder Scott Carlson.
"I think that there are narratives of masculinity that involve men always having to be in control, men taking positions of dominance and men really using violence or their physicality as a means of asserting control.”
Carlson hopes to counter that narrative with campaigns underway this week in all Whitehorse high schools as well as at Yukon College, Dawson City and Watson Lake.
About 20 volunteers helped raise several hundred dollars and have distributed more 1,200 ribbons so far this week in tandem with a poster campaign for the third annual White Ribbon Yukon initiative.
Carlson noted ideas of manhood that write off emotional expression and put a premium on stoicism not only contribute to "pro-violence attitudes, but it's also damaging to men and ultimately dehumanizing to be forced to curtail those feelings.”
"Part of that reverse stereotype, of course, is women as being submissive and controlled,” added co-founder and board member Steve Roddick.
"There's a real interplay between these notions ... and societal structures of sexism and patriarchy.”
The gathering took place at the Whitehorse branch of the Royal Canadian Legion, where framed photos of Victoria Cross recipients — the embodiment of stoic heroism — line the walls. Decorative plates depict soldiers in battle on land and at sea.
Roddick seemed to suggest that White Ribbon Yukon seeks to recalibrate older notions of male responsibility, rather than rejecting them.
"Wearing the ribbon is a pledge not to commit, condone or remain silent about violence against women and girls, and we really do think that men need to play a stronger role in this issue,” he said earlier this week at Monday evening's Take Back the Night event, a march against violence and sexism.
The event kicked off the 12 Days to End Violence campaign, which will wrap up Dec. 6 with the National Day for the Action and Remembrance of Violence Against Women ceremony.
That campaign comes in the wake of controversy arising from university students' associations' "rape chants” in September and disheartening statistics around women and violence.
The Native Women's Association of Canada has said it has documented more than 600 cases of murdered and missing women since 2005, a number the RCMP cannot confirm.
In 2009, women in the Yukon and aboriginal women nationwide were almost three times more likely than non-aboriginal women to report having been a victim of a violent crime, according to Statistics Canada.
The bulk of these incidents occurred among women under 35.
Aboriginal women are also more likely to experience forms of extreme violence or mistreatment than non-aboriginal women.
Steve Reed, a teacher at Elijah Smith Elementary School, spoke to the gathering Wednesday.
He discussed the boys' after-school group he has led for eight years: "It's three-quarters fun and one-quarter giving back to the community.”
The students shovel seniors' driveways, write cards to teachers and chop wood as well as play games and talk about issues that might not be aired in the classroom.
Reed said his male students are surprisingly receptive to discussing problems around violence, women and personal responsibility.
Ketsia Houde, co-ordinator of the Women's Coalition for Sharing Common Ground, said the campaign's success is "a dream coming true.”
White Ribbon Yukon, with its roots around Roddick's kitchen table, achieved non-profit status earlier this year.
Roddick and Carlson admitted they were initially skeptical about whether a White Ribbon campaign could find its legs in the Yukon.
"Would men really step forward to speak out against men's violence, and in support of gender equality?” Carlson asked.
"Over the last two years, starting small and building up to a crescendo tonight, we've heard the answer to that question, and it's a resounding yes....
"Yes, men will work in partnership with women; yes, men will speak together with one voice saying that our future holds no violence.”
Roddick added that White Ribbon Yukon received tireless support from women's groups over the past two years.
Josh Regnier, a board member and Yukon College's student engagement coordinator, officiated the event. He also helped close it out with a performance by prominent Whitehorse band The Brass Knuckle Society.
Mayor Dan Curtis, on hand for the meeting, said he was "incredibly delighted” with the campaign's ongoing efforts.
In October, Yukon MP Ryan Leef called for a national inquiry into murdered and missing women – something Prime Minister Stephen Harper has ruled out.
A report from a parliamentary committee examining the issue is due in February 2014.
Comments (13)
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fed up with criminals on Aug 6, 2014 at 9:34 am
My question is for Mike Madder....what do you think should happen to all the other criminals? What about the con-artists, thieves and liars in your community? Is it fair that they get to walk around free? I can't see how YOU, a convicted criminal, have the right to any opinions on other criminals and what should happen to them. Perhaps you should ALL be thrown into the same cell and let God decide who deserves to survive.
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Wooly Socks on Dec 6, 2013 at 5:45 am
Congrats! What a wonderful contribution to our community. Continue to work towards promoting safety and wellbeing for everyone!
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Erin Stehelin on Dec 5, 2013 at 9:49 am
Any kind of violence is bad. Let's start by turning off the T.V.
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north of 60 on Dec 5, 2013 at 9:09 am
Good point Jackie. The abusers will ignore the posters in the same way that drunk drivers ignore the 'don't drink and drive' posters.
As long as it's privately funded, I don't care what they do to 'raise awareness'. Everyone needs a hobby.
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Jackie Ward on Dec 5, 2013 at 6:21 am
I don't need fancy posters and ads to tell me not to hit women. To me these things are a waste of time. And honestly I see these guys as trying to make a career out of nothing.
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Respect-R-E-S-P-E-C-T on Dec 4, 2013 at 3:10 pm
Well, to all of you who wish to criticize these two guys or anybody trying to change violence against women, you are being a part of the problem. My mother used to get beat up regularly by her first mistake….some men think this is fine and a part of life. No, not all men beat their partners…that's not what this campaign is about. It's about respecting women and teenage girls.
Growing up in the Yukon, it's rough. Lots of parties, judgement, words like 'slut' being passed all the time by male and female, plus the alcohol and drug abuse only exacerbates the problems. Teach males that no means no, a drunk female is a hands off female, that beating a woman can give you a criminal record that will follow you for the rest of your life.
WE DESERVE RESPECT--males do too--but how many gang rapes happen against males by females? How many females are beating up their husbands or boyfriends? How many females have the power to intimidate their partners physically? Answer these questions and you will see why we need to stop all abuse of females, especially in the North and especially against native females.
It's not pointing fingers; fix this mindset that it is still a 'behind closed doors thing' or she deserves it…all of you came from mothers and how would you like to see your mother getting abused by a male? Respect.
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Max Mack on Dec 3, 2013 at 9:01 am
Portraying domestic and partner violence from a female-only perspective and painting males as aggressors with embedded "narratives" does not address the many issues underlying violence.
The twin ideas that men are criminals who need shaming and jailing while women are victims that need protecting are "narratives" that are outdated and extremely destructive in their effects on our society.
Perhaps these two pretty boys should broaden their horizons?
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mike madder on Dec 2, 2013 at 12:01 pm
Well I've got a conversation to invite you to. Down in Watson Lake where violence against women is a daily occurrence there's an election going on and in that election is convicted violent offender Daniel Morris running for chief of his community and Alfred Chief Sr. a convicted offender running for councilor.
I believe that all people have a right to live life but I believe that once you've crossed the line and sexually assaulted someone your rights to Govern over anyone should be relinquished. I mean really. How about the victims of these two men? Are they to stay quiet and kiss the offenders butt to get assistance or maybe an education grant? Or maybe the victims should just move somewhere else so as not to disrupt the goings on at the Liard band office.
God forbid someone would hold the past of convicted criminals against them. I mean they took their anger management program so they must be better. If that sounds as dumb to you as it does to me then let's talk about it and Daniel and Alfred. You feel free to join in keeping in mind that disclosure for all your convictions are public record so denying these allegations is not a option.They're even printed in our and BC newspapers but welcome.
This writer believes that ALL violent offenders should never be in a position of power over any human being again. What do you think?
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north of 60 on Dec 2, 2013 at 8:12 am
People will say all sorts of nice things -- when they're sober.
As long as society makes excuses for drunks, the problem of abuse will continue.
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Yukoner1 on Dec 1, 2013 at 6:57 am
"I think that there are narratives of masculinity that involve men always having to be in control, men taking positions of dominance and men really using violence or their physicality as a means of asserting control.” Wow Scott that's a little suggestive, makes us sound like a bunch of cavemen here, I think u need to calm down just a bit.
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Just not sure on Dec 1, 2013 at 3:05 am
Difficult to self assess....people get stressed and lash out at those closest to them, being aware of it or not, we all have our moments.....I am male so if I have a bad day and don't prop my partner on a pedestal I'm abusive is what I see being suggested...it's a two way street as well.....geez I've never struck or pushed any female but the suggestion here is I am bigger or stronger in most cases than women so I am abusive.....please don't pigeon hole us....we might take offence...then we are abusive....forbid having a different opinion than your partner because you'd be abusive....if you are a male.
I completely support standing up and calling out abusers but I have no idea how to do it without being abusive.
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Really?? on Nov 29, 2013 at 9:15 am
How could people possible "dislike" the comment made by "Great NEWS!" REAL men who are willing to take a stand on these issues and people disagree? What kind of community is this?! Unreal.
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Great News! on Nov 28, 2013 at 9:29 am
Beautiful to see this initiative being started by men in our community - way to go gentlemen - what great role models!!!!!